Jeff EllisThere were a multitude of light bulbs that began to light up for me in my head as I continued my martial arts training.  I had found something that I was now taking pride in and on my own without anyone else’s help.  I do not mean my instructors as they played an invaluable part of the equation. Nor do I mean the person who I will always be indebted to for nearly forcefully, almost putting me in the car and making me go to my first lesson, my cousin Mickey.  It was his insight and persistence that created the most influential decision that I ever made that has shaped my life for the better and contributed greatly to the person who I am today.

As many of my friends were taking steps to get ready to apply to colleges I had not done anything but occasionally wonder what I was going to do after graduation –that is if I graduated.

I remember during the summer after graduation there was a lot of buzz about who was doing what in the fall among a group of people that hung out together on those summer nights.

It was now that I needed to make up my mind.  It was not procrastination that placed me in this wait until the last moment kind of situation with what happens next.  It really was up to that point that I could not imagine anything beyond well, maybe I could get some kind of job- doing what?  I definitely did not have any skill outside of the skill of not applying myself.

All that changed with my training in martial arts. It literally helped open my eyes to whom I was and allowed me to actually see that there possibilities out there in the real world waiting for me to explore.

Through my training experience a variety of qualities began to unfold for me and one of those was an unstoppable frame of reference.  A sense of direction came out of no where and despite other people like my guidance counselor at school; my family all said I was not college material.  I still can picture the conversation my mother had with me in the kitchen of our home when she said point blank very sternly “you could never go to college” that summer.

Well, one of those light bulbs flashed on at that moment it was like a big flood light going off in my head.  I don’t believe I said anything out loud to her or anyone else.  Inside a great sense of energy raised up and from that moment I said to myself I am going to do something with myself and I am going to start by going to college… period.

This was a beginning of my first episode of utilizing indomitable spirit in my life.  That force needed to be cultivated and my martial arts helped me with that.  To that end, I relied on indomitable spirit a variety of times while going to college and graduating from a respected private liberal arts college.

Since that memorable experience that impacted my life I have relied on the use of indomitable spirit countless times to push through tough times, challenges, and gaining that extra push or verve required to tackle and accomplish an important goal.

How To Develop Indomitable Spirit

  1. First, by knowing clearly what you believe in and are willing to stand up for these principles. When you look into the mirror see beyond your physical presence. Who and what is the person you are and what is it you represent.  One way to figure this out is to imagine how you want to be thought of by others that you respect that know you.
  2. 2. Next identify one goal or purpose that you feel strongly about. Become fired up inside with an absolute sense of determination to do something about it. It could be a cause or need like doing a food drive to help those less fortunate in your community.

As you accomplish one task that was at first seemingly difficult move on to greater goals and you will see that each time that you successfully overcome the challenges that you are faced with in any situation worthwhile achieving as there are always road blocks, you will be become stronger and that rising spirit will grow, develop and son you will be on your way to overcoming the barriers that stand before you with any endeavor despite their first appearance of being impossible to overcome.

3 Get out of your comfort level.

Everyone likes the feeling of being secure, safe out of harms way.  Certainly the notion of self preservation stands from the beginning of time.  We like feeling safe in our space and comfortable too.

The difficulty for really being able to achieve great levels of success is being able to extend our comfortable boundaries.  You no doubt have heard the phrase get out of your comfort zone.  By pushing yourself and allowing others that support your mission and success beyond what feels just ok or satisfied with you will enjoy substantially higher levels of success and thereby greater satisfaction.

If your dream and passion happens to be helping others imagine by extending yourself just how much more you will be able to achieve and giving others much more.

How to get out of your comfort level:  Challenge yourself with goals

Identify something somewhat easy first.  Now add 10% more to the goal than you originally considered.

Give a time deadline to achieve it.  If it is reading books that are of interest to you or helpful like a motivational books figure how many chapters in the book and set a goal of reading so many pages or chapters a day.

  1. Identify a few key objectives that will fulfill a dream or goal. Consider reaching a little further than you first imagine.  Bounce the idea off a friend or colleague.  If A is possible could B be possible as well and can B bring about greater levels of success.

Join something or participate in something i.e.” running a race, or joining a certain class that will be challenge for you.


“The man who goes farthest is generally the one who is willing to do and dare. The sure-thing boat never gets far from shore.” ~  Dale Carnegie

See How Jeff Ellis’ International Karate Centers In Strongsville & Avon Lake Can Improve Your Self-Confidence And Belief In Self.  Call Us Today At 440 202-9848.

Jeff Ellis has taught over 10,000 people that include children and adults of all ages in martial arts training.  Beginning as a teenager Jeff’s experience spans more than 50 years with martial arts personally.

Graduated from Baldwin –Wallace University with a major in Psychology.

Currently, a 9th degree Black Belt and a Grandmaster Instructor in Kwanmukan Martial Arts.  Using martial arts as a catapult to overcome difficulties and challenges that caused him to fail repeatedly as a child, Jeff has taken the secrets he has discovered that literally transformed his life to become a successful leader, serial entrepreneur in retail, real estate, event promoter, professional motivational speaker & author.

Jeff is on a mission to spread news to others about how they can learn to become the valuable person they want to be by believing in themselves and developing the right tools to break through the barriers that hold you back

Life Skills that Prepare a Child for Being in School

The earliest years of a child’s upbringing can be the most important in many ways. Professionals who teach pre-school are always keeping an eye out to see whether children are developing mentally, physically, and socially. A variety of important life skills and character traits – fostered at an early age – will serve them well as they grow and face the rigors of education, work, and life in general. These skills relate to all facets of a child’s development from the cognitive base to the emotional. Parents and pre-school teachers have a duty to ensure that children gradually develop a sense of independence that enables them comprehend, adapt, and function at a high level.

In many cases, development of these life skills happens quite naturally, particularly when consistently monitored and encouraged or corrected. To an adult, these skills and traits might seem mundane or trivial, but incremental development of them can have a profoundly positive impact on their futures.

What Skills To Build

Even ordinary tasks as simple as putting one’s clean clothes away carefully or washing their hands before eating a meal are hugely important. In some sense, these are the first steps that a child takes in educating himself or herself regarding concepts like organization, self-reliance, and hygiene. Pre-school children between the ages of three and five are usually not ready to study or work, but can readily learn these skills through structured interactive play and positive reinforcement.

How to Maximize Life Skill Building

In order to master these skills, children will not only need to observe adults doing them but also gain experience performing particular tasks themselves. Certain skills will come quicker than others, especially because no single child is the same as another. As such, pre-school teachers and parents should pay careful attention to which skills are being developed properly and which still require practice. In some cases, a child may need extra help in order to fully understand and learn certain skills. In addition to pre-school, toddlers participating in structured group activities such as pre-school karate frequently learn from an age-appropriate curriculum specifically designed to build life skills in addition to physical and mental skills.

Perhaps one of the most important life skills that must be presented to pre-school children is the ability to interact properly and cooperate with other children as well as adult authority figures. While independence is certainly important, building the social skills of a child begins at the youngest of ages. Social skills and cooperation can sometimes be difficult to measure, and more
often than not require intensive observation on the part of the pre-school teacher or parent. In order to fully allow a child to develop such skills, it is important for pre-school teachers and parents to clearly define their expectations of a child and put into place measures that maximize the capacity for a child to learn and adopt them.

Improve Your Child’s Self-Confidence with Karate

Karate is an ancient Japanese martial arts form that became popular worldwide during the 1960s, and today for the vast majority of non-martial artists, “karate” is synonymous with “martial arts.” It continues to be a popular discipline across the globe, especially among children and adolescents. Unlike some styles, karate is easy to teach and learn in segments that are age and fitness level appropriate. It’s also a powerful way to guide your kids into becoming confident, caring, and capable individuals.

Karate to boost self-confidence

Self-confidence is the ability to trust yourself and your abilities. For that, you need to first know what you are capable of physically, mentally, and emotionally. To know this, it is essential that you push your limits on a regular basis to see how much you can take. Pushing yourself just a little bit more each workout is the key to extending and expanding your capabilities over time. Since karate and some related martial art forms are essentially about self-improvement of mind, body, and spirit, training is a natural, reliable, and enjoyable way to gain self-confidence.

You can train your kids to practice pushing their limits from a young age, so they learn to give their best in every life situation. Get them started young, in their pre-school years if possible, to reap maximum benefits of karate. These early, formative years are important times for developing bodies and minds. Parents appreciate the physical fitness, good manners, and new friendships formed by their children being in karate.

Karate involves progression from one level to the next, each level corresponding to various
belt colors going from white to black. Each successive rank includes a number of simple and complex moves that must be learned and properly performed, with tests to be passed, to be graduated in rank and belt color. Classes also include free sparring in protective safety gear with peers and seniors to develop students’ self-defense skills.

Karate classes can help children know themselves better and build their self-confidence in many ways.

  • Passing a skill test gives a sense of accomplishment.
  • Sparring develops and tests strategy, speed, agility, and endurance.
  • Praise and positive feedback – and continual progress in the martial arts skills, visible in
    each student’s moves and techniques over time – are motivating results!
  • Getting to the next level and belt color can be a major milestone.
  • It can be a major tool against bullying, helping your kids defend themselves and be safe.

Knowing themselves and improving their abilities give your children the priceless gifts of self- confidence and self-reliance. They learn to have positive attitudes, goals, patience, and other virtues that are especially helpful when trying new things, dealing with problems and setbacks, and facing life’s challenges head-on.

Other benefits of learning karate

The fun practice of karate offers even more benefits to both children and adults who participate regularly. It can teach them many skills and instill leadership traits, in addition to improving their self-confidence.

  • Discipline
  • Physical fitness
  • Social skills
  • Respect
  • Listening
  • Self-esteem

Giving kids the opportunity to learn karate, or any martial arts form, might be the most formative, beneficial, and enduring gift you can give your child besides your love and care. Training, learning, winning, losing, and trying again through the interesting and motivating practice of karate will help them develop good habits and self-confidence. This often results in young people becoming positive, strong, responsible, and confident adults who are ready to take on life as leaders.

The Importance of Developing a Child’s Focus

One of the most common problems that many children have is in focusing on particular tasks for long periods of time. Developing memory, focus, and attention spans when a child is between the ages of three and five is very important. As a parent or a pre-school teacher, one has to constantly monitor and observe a child, to deduce whether he or she is adequately developing these skills. Doing so will ensure that in the future, when a child is required to deal with large tasks and projects, he or she will be able to “apply” the mind for longer periods of time and yield greater results. Structured, enjoyable activities such as pre-school karate help children learn to focus on the task at hand.

Effects of Technology

Some experts have concluded that the reason why many children today have trouble focusing on tasks for long periods is due to a ‘glancing culture’ that has proliferated as technology
has advanced. The ways in which they interact with digital media have by and large reduced their ability to focus on ordinary or repetitive tasks, and to persevere through less stimulating activities like studying. Video games and social media like Facebook and Twitter can be entertaining and educational, but aside from specific applications, they generally do not assist with cognitive development in a child. In the past, children were encouraged to play games that build cognition among other skills, but that trend has diminished across the United States.

The ability to focus on a particular task, project, or lesson has a direct bearing on the amount of information a growing child can retain and later apply. The capacity to filter out irrelevant distraction and tune oneself to a particular project helps develop self-control in a child as well.

(Good and Consistent) Practice Makes Perfect

Developing a child’s focus is like developing any kind of muscle in the body. More than anything, it takes a whole lot of practice! Parents and pre-school teachers are advised to schedule tasks and activities that help develop a child’s mental faculties. In certain cases, this may be as simple as scheduling time slots where children are required to play particular cognition-building games such as puzzles, riddles, brainteasers, and so on. Some experts believe that even a few moments of silent meditation can do wonders for developing a child’s ability to focus.

While it is extremely important to ensure that children are integrating skills that allow them to focus, one should also keep in mind that they may get exhausted from time to time as well. As a parent or a pre-school teacher, one should regularly schedule breaks where children can relax and rejuvenate both body and mind between tasks.